The human mind only notices and sees what’s different. If you were standing in front of a classroom and all the students were wearing red shirts, except one who was wearing a white shirt, the only person you'd see is the person in the white shirt. Most of us try to be like everyone else because of a strong desire to be comfortable in life. What we should realize is that it takes a conscious effort to be unique and to embrace your differences so you can gain inner peace and be comfortable with yourself.

We must find our niche within our family, school, and social circles, but then differentiate ourselves in a positive way from everyone else. That might mean working harder and smarter, going above and beyond in our responsibilities, or treating others better than they treat us.

Let's focus on each of the three areas where we'd like to differentiate ourselves: within our family, at school, and with our friends. Research and identify 2 things you can do differently that will bring a positive influence into EACH of these groups. You should be identifying 6 things total.

1. List the groups and the 2 new behaviors

2. What do you think will be the reaction of the group? Will the reaction be positive or negative?

3. If positive, do you think others will begin to adopt the new behavior? If negative, how can you fight through the negativity and still be able to follow through with your goal?

Set a personal goal that you're going to be thoughtful and consistent about these new behaviors for 1 full month. Hopefully, at the end of the month you'll be so used to your new behavior that it'll be like second nature to you.