Michael Henchard gives up searching for his wife and runs away to the town of Casterbridge. Imagine that you are a friend of his that lives there. He asks you for guidance and advice so that he can do better as a human being moving forward. What would you tell him?

ismene wants to follow the rules, unlike antigone who'd rather break them for her brother.

now, of course, the quality and the seasonability of these winter dreams varied, but the stuff of them remained.   they persuaded dexter several years later to pass up a business course at the state university—his father, prospering now, would have paid his way—for the precarious advantage of attending an older and more famous university in the east, where he was bothered by his scanty funds. but do not get the impression, because his winter dreams happened to be concerned at first with musings on the rich, that there was anything merely snobbish in the boy. he wanted not association with glittering things and glittering people—he wanted the glittering things themselves. often he reached out for the best without knowing why he wanted it—and sometimes he ran up against the mysterious denials and prohibitions in which life indulges.

there you go thats what we are missing

anxious,the clues in the question suggest he was embarrassed and anxious about boo radley.